The Judds have some answers!

Thank goodness for DVR's, otherwise I would have missed the Oprah episode that aired on Tuesday with country music superstars, Wynnona Judd and her mother and singing partner, Naomi Judd!  The duo was on Oprah to promote their upcoming final tour together, beginning November 26th.  After years of touring together and being cramped on a tour bus together, they have come to experience MDS in its fullest force!  They shared with the show all of their latest tools, learned in counseling sessions, for tolerating each, or as Wynnona said, "for moving forward" together.  I couldn't help but to memorize each one to share with you all!  Feel free to edit for your own relationships with your mom or daughter:

1. For daughters specifically, since you came later in mom's life, and she's gotten to know you from birth;  get to know mom and who she really is and was before you came.  Find out who she is outside of being your mom.  Because apparently, there is life outside of her responsibility as a mom to you.
2. Being non-resistant.
3. Being invitational instead on confrontational
4. Recognizing that everyone has their own different reality
5. Mirroring, or repeating how you interpret what you heard the other person say.
6. a. Asking permission, "Is this a good time to talk?"  or "Is now a good time for a visit?"
6. b. Or asking permission for physical contact in order to respect each others boundaries, "Can I get a hug?"
7. Saying, "Can I get a do-over?", when you know you reacted in a way you didn't mean to.  (perfect for when you're in a bad mood)
8. Validating by saying, "I can understand why you feel that way." 
9. Saying, "That doesn't work for me", as in, that's for you, and something else is for me, and that's okay.
10.  Being fully present in every moment spent together, and in you lives outside of each other.

When asked what brought them together to tour again, Naomi replied, "Our therapist says its okay to go out in public unsupervised"!  The two of them are hilarious, but I know that it has taken years of hard work for them to get where they are.