Deborah Tannen has a book out called, You're Wearing That, NPR posted an excerpt where she calls what happens between moms and daughters "small sparks, big flare ups". Its the perfect description for what goes down on a regular basis between mother and daughter. Some tiny, seemingly irrelevant even takes place, and its usually not resolved, and it carries the nuclear-sized repercussions for years to come. It starts in adolescence and continues throughout their adult lives.
Just for today, stop, and ask yourself; Is it worth carrying on your shoulders for the rest of your lives? If it happened with anyone else would it have the same impact?
Give your daughter a break, let her off the hook for one thing that happened years ago. Let it go.
Give your mom a break, forgive her for whatever it was that she said or did that you thought was a big deal years ago. Let it go.
Just one little thing....just one tiny step towards a better relationship.
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