MedicineNet.com posted an article of a WebMD Live event with Psychologist Dr. Roni Cohen-Sandler discussing I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You! A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict. After 20 years of couseling mother daughter duos, Dr. Cohen-Sandler came to the conclusion that the strain on mother daughter relationships stems from cultural standards that expect women "not to make waves, speak up, and to swallow their voices in order not to make waves. However, during adolescence, it becomes a problem because girls so often take out their anger and disappointment on their mothers. And mothers feel ill-equipped to manage their daughter's anger." The Dr. lists some strategies to help:
"1. Check your emotional temperature
2. Think through your goal
3. Choose A Good Time
4. Talk to her directly
5. Boost your chance of being heard
6. Be aware of your body language
7. Modify according to your daughter's needs
8. Keep an argument from becoming a fight
9. Reward Your Efforts"
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