Psychologist and writer, Dr. Terri Apter specializes in family dynamics and works to shed light on woman's relationships with their mothers and daughters. She even works to improve in-law relationships through her question and answer website, Mother In-Law Stories. Take a look at a recent question from a follower:
"My question for Dr. Apter is:
My MIL is obsessed with my DH. She has gone as far as introducing him as HER husband. People have brought this to my attention, but my husband says that I have to live with it. What can I do, short of divorcing him? He does seem to feed the problem by calling her and seeing her EVERY SINGLE DAY.
Dr. Apter's reply:
Could you think about which bothers you more - your mother-in-law's comments or your husband's attachment? Her comments are so bizarre that, indeed, you could ignore them. Claiming to be her son's husband puts her in a poor light, not you.
What may be more upsetting is that it seems, if I have understood you, that your husband does not seem concerned about your feelings. That is another issue, and you might want to address that".
Even if your own mother isn't in the picture, his mother may be!
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